Now it's the time. The day before the big day. The longest day ever.
I'll shorten the story where you collect the gowns and props for the wedding day. What's gonna happen on that day is just gown collection, gown fitting, bridal car ribbon fitting and props collection. That's all.
That night is where most of the activities takes place. It is said that the bride and groom shall not meet the night before and so we didn't. We carry out our auspicious tasks at our own home.
Some family would have a small event to invite neighbors, friends or relative over for a small banquet. This is so called the "bachelor's night". I did mine, but my husband did not do on his side. For simplicity, he just have a simple dinner together with the relatives. It's entirely up to the family.
What I would suggest is just ignore the so called bachelor's night banquet. It's time consuming and your guests could be tired from traveling over and they have to be over at your place again the next day especially if your guests are from out of state.
What's inclusive are usually bathing with flower water (to ward of evil spirit), then change to new pyjamas, hair combing ceremony (by a pair of good couple - healthy, with children and grandchildren) and praying to ancestors.
But we just did bathing with flower water since both of us does not have an altar at home.
All these have its own auspicious hour to follow.
p/s: A really short post for the timeline for the long delayed process. heh.
Friday, January 20, 2017
Auspicious: Bridal bed set up
Even bed set up has an auspicious date and time and rules to follow.
This doesn't mean to do wood crafting on the bed. The representative of this act is actually to lay over a new set of bed sheet.
If you're on a budget, you don't even need to buy a new bed per say. Just new bed sheet will do to signifies a new beginning with your significant other and to prepare the room for well, to put it bluntly, baby making!
Let's start with basic:
Bed sheet:
Though not necessary needed to have dragon and pheonix design on it, you can. More importantly is the colour of the bed sheet. Colours to avoid are the mourning colours. (black, blue, white, grey, dark or gloomy colours). Red is perfect as I suppose Chinese weddings are all associated with red which signifies prosperity and happiness.
Person to set up:
Good fortune woman. (Whose husband and children are all alive and has grandchildren) may install the bed.
Bed set up:
To prepare for the set up, the bed is moved slightly out of its designated position. During the auspicious hour to set up, the bed is then moved to its designated position to symbolize the set up completion. Then lay on the new bed sheet.
After that, the good fortune woman will lay on a plate of items which symbolizes good fortune on the bed. Items may include:
- Even number of tangerines,
- Dried longan
- Dried red dates
- Lotus seed
- Cypress Leaf
- Pak Hup
- Red Packet
After that, she will light up the a pair of bed side lamp which symbolizes adding son to the family. The light should not be turned off until the wedding night.
Taboo:
Once the bed is set, except for children who are thought to bless the couple with fertility, in the usual case, a boy and is not against the couple's zodiac, no other adult should sit or rest on the bridal bed before the wedding.
The bride too, should not lie down on the bed. Otherwise it is believed that this will give her a bad health.
If the groom must sleep on the bed before the wedding, he must be accompanied by a young boy because it is considered unlucky to leave the other side of the bed empty which may signifies to curse the other half death.
Anyone with chinese zodiac against the couples' should not enter the bridal room.
This doesn't mean to do wood crafting on the bed. The representative of this act is actually to lay over a new set of bed sheet.
If you're on a budget, you don't even need to buy a new bed per say. Just new bed sheet will do to signifies a new beginning with your significant other and to prepare the room for well, to put it bluntly, baby making!
Let's start with basic:
Bed sheet:
Though not necessary needed to have dragon and pheonix design on it, you can. More importantly is the colour of the bed sheet. Colours to avoid are the mourning colours. (black, blue, white, grey, dark or gloomy colours). Red is perfect as I suppose Chinese weddings are all associated with red which signifies prosperity and happiness.
Person to set up:
Good fortune woman. (Whose husband and children are all alive and has grandchildren) may install the bed.
Bed set up:
To prepare for the set up, the bed is moved slightly out of its designated position. During the auspicious hour to set up, the bed is then moved to its designated position to symbolize the set up completion. Then lay on the new bed sheet.
After that, the good fortune woman will lay on a plate of items which symbolizes good fortune on the bed. Items may include:
- Even number of tangerines,
- Dried longan
- Dried red dates
- Lotus seed
- Cypress Leaf
- Pak Hup
- Red Packet
After that, she will light up the a pair of bed side lamp which symbolizes adding son to the family. The light should not be turned off until the wedding night.
Taboo:
Once the bed is set, except for children who are thought to bless the couple with fertility, in the usual case, a boy and is not against the couple's zodiac, no other adult should sit or rest on the bridal bed before the wedding.
The bride too, should not lie down on the bed. Otherwise it is believed that this will give her a bad health.
If the groom must sleep on the bed before the wedding, he must be accompanied by a young boy because it is considered unlucky to leave the other side of the bed empty which may signifies to curse the other half death.
Anyone with chinese zodiac against the couples' should not enter the bridal room.
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